The Mourning After
When a significant person in your life has died, you feel like you have crash-landed into a whole new world. Your feelings of loss and bewilderment will last for a long time. As you try to make your way through this "Valley of the shadow of death", grief may so completly take over and manage your life that you may feel like a small boat adrift and helpless on a stormy sea. If you do not find some constructive ways of managing it-it will manage you. This is not something that someone else can do for you.
The purpose of my Weblog is to help you understand your not alone in the way you feel and why you sometimes may think you are losing your mind. Why am I doing this? Because I have lost my 20 year old daughter Helen and realize that this is my only way right now to handle my own grief, by trying to be there for others who have lost their child or children. To share my thoughts, feelings and my own personal grief experience.
My daughter passed away suddenly during the night in my home a year ago July 18, 2004. I found her face down in my upstairs hallway dead and gone with her baby boy asleep on her back. I was devastated! I still feel devastated and feel like I will never again be truly happy. My world has been turned upside down. They say it is normal.
What is normal anymore?
None of us can prevent what life brings us, but we can determine what we do about it. There is no experience in life which we cannot work our way through. However tell that to a Mother who has lost her child. Grieving the loss of a child is the most painful of all human experience. It produces a variety of emotional and physical symptoms which are dusturbing and sometimes terrifying, mostly because we feel alone and that noone else is suffering as we are.
I have heard many times in my life that time heals all wounds. God doesn't give is anymore than we can handle. Well how much am I suppose to handle anyways? I feel my load is to heavy already.
i tried support groups however maybe it is still to soon for me or maybe they just not for me at all. I only know that sharing my thoughts, feelings and experience her with others is helping me right now. This focus outside myself will enable me to survive. There are no magic pills to help me escape the suffering of grief any more than there is an escape from the pain that follows surgery or a severe illness.But I can do more than survive. I can emerge as a better person if I really work at it. The worst thing I can do right now is nothing.
Courage is not having the strength to go on; Its going on when you don't have the strength!
Have a Blessed day!!
The purpose of my Weblog is to help you understand your not alone in the way you feel and why you sometimes may think you are losing your mind. Why am I doing this? Because I have lost my 20 year old daughter Helen and realize that this is my only way right now to handle my own grief, by trying to be there for others who have lost their child or children. To share my thoughts, feelings and my own personal grief experience.
My daughter passed away suddenly during the night in my home a year ago July 18, 2004. I found her face down in my upstairs hallway dead and gone with her baby boy asleep on her back. I was devastated! I still feel devastated and feel like I will never again be truly happy. My world has been turned upside down. They say it is normal.
What is normal anymore?
None of us can prevent what life brings us, but we can determine what we do about it. There is no experience in life which we cannot work our way through. However tell that to a Mother who has lost her child. Grieving the loss of a child is the most painful of all human experience. It produces a variety of emotional and physical symptoms which are dusturbing and sometimes terrifying, mostly because we feel alone and that noone else is suffering as we are.
I have heard many times in my life that time heals all wounds. God doesn't give is anymore than we can handle. Well how much am I suppose to handle anyways? I feel my load is to heavy already.
i tried support groups however maybe it is still to soon for me or maybe they just not for me at all. I only know that sharing my thoughts, feelings and experience her with others is helping me right now. This focus outside myself will enable me to survive. There are no magic pills to help me escape the suffering of grief any more than there is an escape from the pain that follows surgery or a severe illness.But I can do more than survive. I can emerge as a better person if I really work at it. The worst thing I can do right now is nothing.
Courage is not having the strength to go on; Its going on when you don't have the strength!
Have a Blessed day!!
posted by Cora Frazier | 8:16 AM
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